When you see a generous giver who gives joyfully without ulterior motive. Then you have seen a man who had learned how to receive. It is good to learn how to give, and it is more blessed and fulfilling to be a giver because when you give, you put joy in someone’s heart and a smile on his/her face.
Indeed, money or wealth does not bring happiness, but what you do with it does. At the end of everything, you’ll discover that the most fulfilling time of your life is when you do something, whether great or small, to put a smile on someone’s face and expect no return.
However, you cannot be a good giver if you have not first learned to be a good receiver. The sacrificial givers we are seeing now were once good recipients. They are simply reciprocating what someone or people have done to them. Therefore, it is necessary to cultivate a positive receiving attitude if we want to be good givers. How do we become good receivers? I suggest the following.
Be Humble
Humility is like a master key that unlocks the door of help and favor from people around you. You can achieve your dream if you are serious and focused but humility will attract mentors who will help you arrive at your destination faster. Humility inspires you to see beyond your ability and enables you to get the help you need. It persuades you to stoop to conquer. Therefore, be humble if you want to be a good receiver.
Be Vulnerable
Vulnerability in this context means you should be sincere and open. People always avoid a hypocritical and bottle-tightened person. Everybody around you will think you are fine if you refuse to admit it when you need help. However, a sincere and open person easily attracts people’s attention to help. This means vulnerability enables you to swallow your pride and cause you to ask for help from people. Thus, you become a good taker when you’re vulnerable.
Do Not Be Cynical
You cannot get people to give or assist you when you misjudge their willingness to help for selfish interests. Hence, a cynical person neither knows how to take friendly offers nor how to receive a gift from people. Because he believes people are doing it for self-interest and not to serve. Yes, it is wise to ask why someone opts to help or give you something. But it is myopic and wrong to jump to a conclusion that moral support is done for selfishness when you have no evidence for such. Cynicism is a mindset that needs to be changed if you want to be a good receiver.
Avoid Selfishness
Selfishness is an unpleasant habit you need to avoid when you’re learning how to accept help from people. It makes you self-center yourself and take offense when a situation stops someone from helping. It can breed an ungrateful attitude and make you a bad receiver. Aside, selfishness is an obnoxious habit we all need to avoid if we want to be a good receiver and.
Avoid Desperation
It is not wise to be desperate when you want people to help you. Because it makes you feel disappointed if things turn the other way round. But you have nothing to lose if you do not expect help from anyone. However, if eventually, you get someone to help you at an unexpected time; you feel elated and appreciate it the more, and that makes you a good beneficiary.
Aim To Reciprocate
The reason for doing something is the strongest motivation you can get when you set a goal, it is the reason for the push and momentous that keeps you going when it’s hard. You become a wise beneficiary when the motive is to reciprocate the good done to you. This is not necessarily directly to the one, or those who did you well but to humanity, and especially the helpless. Hence, when receiving favor from people, let the vision be to give others as you were given.
Conclusion
The attitude of giving brings happiness and fulfillment to the mind. However, the best way to learn how to give is to first learn how to receive because the man who knows how to receive is the one who learned how to give. But an individual who is not vulnerable and feels too proud to ask for help or refuse help from a willing giver. Such a man will be very reluctant at giving. The simple reason is that the struggles and the suffering he passed through before achieving his dream will prevent him. Hence, he will wish people struggle to achieve their dream than receive help. Therefore, if you want to be a good giver please, learn how to receive. Shalom.
Felix Adeoye.
