Do you struggle to achieve something great, and it’s not working out the way you want, no matter how you try? The simple answer is because you have not found the right person with a solution to your quest. The day you find the right person, your puzzle will unravel and clear like the dawn of the day. I know the question in mind, how do I find the right person who has the answer to my quest? The question is what this article aims to answer for you; hence, ensure you read to the end.
God did not wire you to do things alone. Instead, he planted tens of hundred people around you with unique talents, and professionalism out of which you can find one or more who will help you achieve your dream. However, wisdom is principal when searching for someone to help you because you don’t need everyone but one or a few who can help you.
Courage For A Simple Act
You do not need to stress yourself searching for the right people; what you need to do is simple, something as simple as eating your meal. But before you can do this simple thing, first, you need courage because it is difficult to do without courage. Then, it would help if you put aside your pride because pride will block your inner sight from impending opportunity. So what is this action that you must do to attract the right people you need to you? The simple step is Vulnerability. You need to be vulnerable to find the help you need.
Openness Opens The Way
What do I mean by the word Vulnerability? I mean openness. Vulnerability means to disclose who you are. It would be best if you opened up to people before they can decide to help you. It would help if you let people know your ability and limitation to know where to come in. Yes, I know what you’re thinking; I didn’t say you should go to the street and tell every Tom, Dick, and Harry about who you are. That doesn’t sound very reasonable! But there are people planted around your life or on your life journey to help you, like your spouse, your parents, some trusted friends and neighbors, godly pastor, or counselor. You can only know your actual helper by being vulnerable. Yes, some could despise and judge you if you’re open up, but your real helper will accept you the way you are, and they will stay put into helping you achieve your dream.
The Best Honest Way to Achieve Intimacy
The most honest and most straightforward way to achieve intimacy in your relationships is through Vulnerability. When you are vulnerable, you will win the trust of your partner, spouse, friend, neighbor, even your boss. Whatever the relationship is, the most straightforward key that unlocks the door of a long-lasting relationship is Vulnerability. However, not everyone deserves your Vulnerability. People who exploit or use your openness for their selfish advantage do not deserve your honesty. Also, people who avoid you when you try getting closer do not earn your Vulnerability. But do not starve them your Vulnerability when you find yourself in the right atmosphere or the hand of the right people because they will be there to help you achieve your dream.
Created To Be Complemented
Listen, God blessed the universe with thousands of talents and gifts, but He gave you 1, 2, 3, or 5 at most, and not everything. The Creator gave the rest to several others. The simple reason is that God never wired you to do it all alone; He wired everyone so we could complement one another. However, you cannot find an excellent person to help you unless you’re vulnerable. Everyone wants to come to an open person, but no one wants to get close to a bottle-tightened person. People around you will think you’re fine If you refuse to admit it when you’re helpless, but if you open up, they will rise to help and may even go beyond your expectation.
It Takes Strength To Do It
I used to think Vulnerability is the language of the weakling; therefore, I didn’t give any attention when people talk about it because I want to be manly, so I resolved to be independent to prove my manliness. However, later on, I discovered I was rubbing myself off many opportunities lying untapped around me and achieving little with lots of effort. So, I started opening up by fostering Vulnerability when I discover I wasn’t making headway. To my surprise, the effect was like magic; I began to see my desired result.
The positive result is the reason I decided to do some research and write about it. It then dawns on me that it is never the language of the weaklings but the language of courageous people. The reason is, vulnerable people are the ones strong enough to control their egos. It takes strength to put one’s ego to subjection and be vulnerable. Unfortunately, people who find it challenging to be vulnerable are still being ruled by their ego because one of the significant reasons many refuse Vulnerability is ego.
Avoid The Pitfall
However, do not use Vulnerability to manipulate people for selfish purposes, and the motive is never to impress people because the consequence could be very detrimental. Instead, it would be best if you upheld Vulnerability for a selfless or purposeful endeavor. When you decide to foster Vulnerability, the question should not be what or how do I do it. The question should be, why am I making myself vulnerable to this person or these people.
The purpose should be to achieve a reasonable goal for yourself and to help people. Get me right; I’m not saying you should be an opportunist who fosters Vulnerability to take full advantage of people. In this context, you’re not only making yourself vulnerable to achieve something for yourself only. But also, you’re making yourself vulnerable to offer something valuable to the people to whom you’re vulnerable.
Conclusion
The mess we’re in today is because our first parents wanted to be independent of God and themselves; they ended up complicating everything. Thanks to God for sending Jesus Christ, who helps us fix it, but the entire human race is yet to recover from their foolishness. While I will blame them then, I will not blame them now because God has given us the power to correct them. Therefore, stop complicating your life; rather, embrace Vulnerability and start fostering it. You will discover it is easier than you think.
Thank you for the time spent reading my article. What is your opinion about Vulnerability, and to what extent do you think one should be vulnerable in a relationship?
